Now that graduation is a safe two weeks behind me, I feel like now is the perfect time to unpack my college experience. College is the wildest four years of your life, so I thought that I would talk about four of the many important lessons college taught me. This was also the perfect opportunity to share some of my favorite graduation photos from the week.
Keep Your Friends Close
This is the perfect time to form new friendships and be present in them. This is the only time in your life where your best friends will be at maximum 10 walking minutes away. Going into college, it is just as important to keep and open heart as it is an important mind. As clique as it sounds, but this is where you will meet “your people”. While we are now spread all over the country, I know that they are only a text or FaceTime away. Cherish the time that you have spontaneous movie nights and the afternoons where you spend doing nothing.
It Is Ok To Not Have Everything Figured Out
One of the biggest pressures that you face in college is “the plan”. What are you getting your degree in? What are you going to do with that? Will you have a job? Will you be successful? These questions will be asked countless times, and it is stressful. College is the time for finding yourself and your future but it is important to do it on your own terms. For a while, you might be lost and you might not have everything figured out (even after you graduate) and that is OK. This is the time to have these adventures and find out who you are and what you want.
Don’t Compare Your Relationships To Others (Especially the Internet)
College is the time to explore. this is the first time that you are away from your family and you can explore how you are and who you want to be with. Relationships are such a unique and individual thing. Everyone is going to be experimenting and entering new relationships. People will be doing their own thing and trying to figure out what works for them. Don’t ever compare your own relationships to other people’s or the Internet (you will drive yourself crazy). While, it is not going to be perfect the whole time (in fact it rarely ever is perfect) that is part of the journey. Sometimes, you and someone else are in totally different places and it doesn’t work out and it sucks. Just prioritize your own well being and happiness, everything will fall into place after that. Heartbreak and disappointment are all part of the process, but that is a post for another day.
College Is Not How The Movies Portray It
College movies look amazing, but they are not totally accurate. It is not all partying and fun times. While college was an amazing four years of my life, it was not all happy chapters. There were chapters that are filled sadness, overwhelming confusion, and just plain sucky times. That is rarely seen in the movies, but that is where there is growth and where you become the person that you are meant to become. Those chapters that challenge you are the ones that shape who you become.
Now as post grad life has truly settled in, today I am off to my new adventure and starting a new job. While I am sure that there is going to be some growing pains as I am adjusting to my new life away from Elon, I am excited to see what these next chapters hold.
Photo Credits to: McKenzie Floyd and Nic Zuhse